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By Sarah Elisabeth Sawyer

Music. Food. Parades. Golf tournament. True red, white, blue, and country music Memorial Day weekends came alive in Denison, Texas, all thanks to hearts as big as Texas.

Over 30 years ago, a tradition started with an entire community coming together for what some dubbed “Reba-time.” The annual fundraising weekend for the local hospital captured the American spirit of selflessly serving your fellow man.

That was how Dr. Darius Maggi saw it, those early days when, what was then the area’s nonprofit hospital, the Texoma Medical Center was known for having nearly every health offering available at the time. There were few things not housed under its roof.

And from the beginning, raising funds for health initiatives was all about one thing: The care of the patient.

The need for care extended to caregivers of patients. This means to create a “caregiver of the caregiver” emerged after one question proposed by local businessman Jerdy Gary, who later became the first chairman of the Texoma Medical Center Foundation (TMCF). The foundation that would ultimately help establish the Texoma Health Foundation (THF) so many years later.

“Jerdy knew Reba (McEntire) and her family members were my patients,” Dr. Maggi recalls. “So he asked if I thought we could get Reba to do something [for the hospital]. I said, ‘Well, I’ll ask her.”

Dr. Maggi did just that over lunch one day with Reba. The conversation sparked a monumental time of fundraisers that spanned two decades. Part of those funds built Reba’s Ranch House—a home for caregivers to find refuge while their loved one is hospitalized.

“It was such a phenomenal community effort across North Texas and Southern Oklahoma,” Dr. Maggi said. “Incredible for a town this size.”

The first Reba concert was held with her full band in the old Denison High School auditorium on a Sunday afternoon in 1987. But they didn’t end there. They spilled out into white tents and parties, then grew every Memorial Day weekend, capturing the heart of surrounding areas with Denison’s Memorial Day Parade, a Reba Charity Golf Classic, home-cooked food, and of course, Reba’s concerts.

Though simply a small town, the heart of Denison and the communities that surround us could fill Texas. From business owners, to hospital staff and volunteers, to the ladies on the Reba Development Committee, the community came alive to prepare each year for Reba-time.

“It was a happy time because it was community,” Dr. Maggi said. “That’s what we’re supposed to be about. Our main reason when we set out with all this was to be the beacon of care for people.”

It all began with that question posed by Jerdy to Dr. Maggi, who remembers Jerdy being like, “a big teddy bear.”

“He had so much love,” Dr. Maggi recalls. “He was the son of a governor, and he knew something about promotions. He had that deep voice and could articulate extremely well. But he wasn’t about himself. He did not want the limelight, but he had a lot of respect from the community as a great leader.”

Jerdy passed in 2021, just shy of this 30th year celebrating the opening of Reba’s Ranch House in 1992. But his legacy echoes in the halls and lives through every person who finds refuge within the ranch house.

After 30 years, Reba’s Ranch House—owned and operated by the Texoma Health Foundation—still opens its doors to care for caregivers. You can show that same care that began with “Reba-time” by donating here.

By Sarah Elisabeth Sawyer

On Cap Chesser’s long list of charitable giving and volunteer work, Reba’s Ranch House stands out for reasons that go back a long, long way…

In third grade, Cap was growing up in east central Oklahoma, near Prague, when his family needed to make an emergency trip to the hospital in Oklahoma City. Cap’s mother was in a bad way during her third pregnancy and they didn’t know if she would survive it.

During those worrisome days, Cap’s father rented an apartment a full mile from the hospital for the family to stay in during the ordeal.

Mom was okay, and still is at 93-years-old. But when Cap walked the halls of Reba’s Ranch House, he knew the difference a home away from home, so close to the hospital, would have made for his family back then.

“I was struck with the mission of Texoma Health Foundation and what they do, and then with Reba’s Ranch House,” Cap says. “I started giving annually, but got more active when I felt there was a need. In 2008, I really started stepping into the waters there.”

Among Cap’s many charitable contributions, scholarship establishments, and volunteer activities—he was the Paul Kisel Volunteer of the Year 2021 through the Denison Chamber—one of them is the “Leadership Denison” program. Cap helps organize the different areas of focus—from government to tourism—and he puts the ranch house on the agenda to tour during the medical focus day.

Though someone else guides the leadership group tour, Cap is always there with them to go through the house. They see the footprints Cap and his wife, Jacqueline Vandiver Chesser, have made through the years. It started when the couple sponsored the laundry room, because just like any house—it piles up.

But it’s the quality of the house that captures people’s heart and attention.

“It’s an eye opener from the standpoint of how nice the facility is,” Cap says. “They thought it was going to be like a hotel, but it’s not. It’s a completely encapsulated home for the people who are going to be there awhile.”

After Christmas each year, Cap asks for the ranch house’s leftover wish list for the Denison Rotary Club to take care of. He makes shopping trips to make sure everything is checked off, even if it’s non-glamorous items like dishwashers and vacuum cleaners.

“There are things that people don’t think about,” Cap says. “One year, the thing that jumped out at me was that they needed a whole stack of trash cans. It’s one of the less beautiful gifts I’ve ever given.”

But one of his most beautiful gifts was after his wife passed in 2020. Cap set out to keep her memory as part of the places they both loved and admired.

One of those was Reba’s Ranch House, and Cap sponsored what he calls the, “I miss you, Mommy,” room. It has a crib, rocker, and a fridge—everything to make a mother feel at home when undergoing a medical crisis.

It’s the kind of room his wife would have appreciated, and his own mother as well. The impact of their family’s medical crisis early in his life is one reason why the ranch house holds a special place in his heart, and always will.

By Sarah Elisabeth Sawyer

Scrumptious aromas accompanied the spread of food laid out for Sarah Bradford, her family, and other guests at Reba’s Ranch House on Thanksgiving Day 2019. When the staff invited Sarah to sign up for the communal meal, she had no idea it was going to be an actual Thanksgiving dinner in the midst of their family’s health crisis. There was an abundance of turkey, ham, dressing, and all the trimmings.

Having to spend the holiday away from home in order to be near their loved one at the hospital was strenuous, but it turned out to be a real family and friends Thanksgiving for Sarah, her two teens, and mother-in-law, Shirley.

When Sarah’s sister-in-law, Kelli, was admitted into a Texas hospital with pneumonia in October, a series of trips began for the family. 77-year-old Shirley started making the eight-hour one-way drive from Arkansas to be with her daughter, Kelli, as much as possible. The family alternated stays in different hotels — some of them dicey. Sarah was constantly concerned about her mother-in-law’s safety, finances, and the lonely drive. Shirley was exhausted and had run out of money for hotels. 

But in November, their caseworker shared about the option of staying at Reba’s Ranch House. Shirley would have been forced to drive back-and-forth to Arkansas at least four more times had she not stayed at the house.

“I never knew something like this even existed,” Sarah says. “Every day, someone would bring food and donate it, mostly from churches. When I was not there, I felt so much better knowing Shirley was being taken care of. She literally would not have a dime left if she had to pay for all that. Plus she made friends and they were able to comfort each other. It just made it so much easier on her.”

On Thanksgiving weekend, Kelli faced a tracheotomy. Sarah and her 16-year-old daughter Annie and 14-year-old son Asa made the urgent trip from Arkansas to be with Kelli and Shirley. They likely could not have made the trip without the option to stay at Reba’s Ranch House.

“We had already been down there several times, and spent a lot of money,” Sarah says. 

The four of them bundled into one of the rooms at Reba’s Ranch House with a queen bed that Shirley and Asa shared. Staff members brought in two cots. The family had fun pushing them together at the end of the large bed for Sarah and Annie.

Kelli was not doing well that stormy weekend. It was emotionally draining for them all, especially Sarah’s teens as they watched over their aunt. But Kelli took a turn for the better after the visit. She didn’t need the tracheotomy.

“We stayed with her for four days,” Sarah says. “She couldn’t talk on the phone, so us being there lifted her spirits and helped her get through it. I really, really believe that. She was so sick.”

The family experienced a real Thanksgiving at Reba’s Ranch House, a place Sarah believes helped save Kelli’s life.

By Sarah Elisabeth Sawyer

Cameron Bates entered the dining area at Reba’s Ranch House to check on things. As an intern at the house, he was accustomed to making rounds, doing any clean up, and helping guests. But that day was different. A lone woman stood in the kitchen, crying.

Having worked at the ranch house since 2019, Cameron had seen people come in from all walks of life. One thing he learned from his parents: You never know what someone is going through, but you can always pray with them.

Cameron asked the woman if he could help and she told him she was having to let go of her son that day. They talked and prayed, then she gave Cameron a big hug. 

“She said, ‘You don’t know how much that helped me,’” Cameron recalls, then added, “When people come here, they have a lot on their shoulders. But at the ranch house, we can stop whatever we’re doing and sit and pray with guests. Prayer is very powerful.”

Joining up with Reba’s Ranch House was a natural fit for Cameron’s life as a college student, despite the two-hour round trip drive he makes to the house from his family’s cattle ranch. Growing up on the ranch, Cameron became a lifelong fan of Reba McEntire. When he received the call that they had accepted him for the intern position at Reba’s Ranch House, he was over the moon.

His official internship ended after graduation, but he just couldn’t leave. Though he had started his own business, Cameron chose to remain with the ranch house part-time.

“When you walk through the door, it feels like home,” he says. “I knew it was a special place from that first time.”

Cameron has a hand in nearly every aspect of the house to keep it feeling like a home — and like hope.

“When the guests come back and forth from the hospital, we know it’s hard for them,” he says. “Anything I can do to make their stay more comfortable, I’ll do it.”

One question he often hears when checking people in at the front desk is, How long do I have?

“Reba McEntire wanted the ranch house set up to allow them to stay as long as their loved one is in the hospital,” he says. “That’s the most beautiful thing. People are travelling from out of state and may have to be here for weeks. I’ve heard of people staying in their cars or sleeping on a park bench. For someone to come here and not have to pay anything, that shocks many people. Reba has put her heart and soul into this place, and being able to work here is a dream come true.”

Reba’s Ranch House is owned and operated by the Texoma Health Foundation. If you would like to become a caregiver of caregivers like Cameron, you can contribute to the house today through donating or volunteering.

By Sarah Elisabeth Sawyer

Philip McKinzie opened his eyes…and had no idea where he was. There he lay in a hospital bed, trying to get oriented. But his two daughters were there as Phil gradually learned he was coming out of a chemically-induced coma after 8 days.

What started as an annual check up for Phil’s heart stents turned into emergency open heart surgery. His daughters rushed in from Colorado and Frisco, Texas, and were the very first guests at Reba’s Ranch House’s new facility.

“My daughters told me they had stayed in the ranch house,” Phil recalls. “They told me what a delightful experience it was, and how grateful they were to be that close to the hospital. The people there are so gracious, and the community supports it so much with bringing in food.”

This wasn’t how Phil first learned about the ranch house, though. He was on the TMC Foundation board in the 1980s when the dream for the ranch house was born and was one of the founding board members of the Texoma Health Foundation when it was created in 2007.

Throughout the years, Phil continued his involvement with the ranch house and area hospitals. He’s held an interest in medicine from boyhood when he longed to follow in the footsteps of his great-grandfather and namesake, Philip Lee Cane. Dr. Cane started practicing medicine during the days of Indian Territory, settling in Albany (Oklahoma) in the 1870s. Dr. Cane retired in the 1940s at 85-years-old.

“He was the light of my life,” Phil says. “I loved that man, and I wanted to be a doctor.”

Though Phil ultimately went into banking, his interest in medicine continued. It led him to help recruit physicians for area hospitals, serve on the TMC Foundation board (which morphed into the Texoma Health Foundation), and help with the founding of Reba’s Ranch House.

 Phil moved between Oklahoma and Texas throughout his life, and is now settled in the Celebration Senior Living of Denison, a stone’s throw from the ranch house.

“I told them if they cut a furrow through the woods and build a bridge over the creek, I could walk over there, because we’re that close,” he says. 

Grounds of Reba’s Ranch House

Phil didn’t know that when the second facility was built in 2010, his two daughters would be its first guests as he recovered from open heart surgery in a nearby hospital.

After his recovery, Phil became a volunteer “heart mender” for six years, sitting with families whose loved one was undergoing open heart surgery. He would stay with them for hours, bringing coffee and giving the family updates on what was happening. 

And he let them know it was okay to take a rest at their room in Reba’s Ranch House. 

“We could call them if they were needed and they’d be right there,” he says. “It’s amazing what the Texoma Health Foundation has accomplished [with Reba’s Ranch House]. It’s indescribable.”

Reba’s Ranch House

“Giving of both money and time generally boosts wellbeing

more than people expect. Volunteers tend to weigh less,

to feel healthier, to have a lower chance of suffering a heart attack,

and to score higher in every happiness domain.”

Blue Zones Newsletter

The purple stems above are enchanting if you glance their way. But if you Focus, you realize the stem is filled with tiny individual purple blossoms that fill a cone shape at the end of the stem.  When you look at the flowers in your yard, what do you see? Do you see unknown faces “whispering” your name?

Stop! Join the sweet call of service and lower your blood pressure.

When volunteering for a non-profit, you realize how important it is to instill the feeling of hope in those you serve. Focus!

Who are you passionate about? Do you have 2-4 hours of precious time to donate to a special soul who may be 5 or 95, but desperately needs to know someone out there still loves them? Seems like such a small thing, but it is a mountain to climb for those who need you.

Everyone welcomes a smile, a bag filled with a coloring book and crayons, or a new book to read or to have read to them. Open your heart as you would open each little flower in your garden and Focus on the scent, the delicate texture and how they react not being a part of their mother plant core. You will learn how most of those who need your service feel everyday as they haven’t been given the core to hold on to. Serve by taking food, serve by bringing stamps, serve by talking and praying with those who need it.

You are special to so many more people than you can ever imagine. Focus on Volunteering!

Always wishing you hope and warmth in your home,

Marilyn

Reba’s Ranch House Director

Discover how you can help at Reba’s Ranch House by clicking on our volunteer page here.

By Sarah Elisabeth Sawyer

Susan presenting at the Volunteer Luncheon

In the serene setting of the library room at Reba’s Ranch House, Susan Hooper settled in with Phil Roether and his sister. They were there to discuss a topic Susan knew well — Phil’s sister was preparing to face her battle with breast cancer. 

“I told my sister, ‘Why don’t you come talk to Susan?’” Phil recalled. He is an original board member of the Texoma Health Foundation. “‘Susan has been down this road.’”

A fixture at Reba’s Ranch House, Susan had battled breast cancer and was always ready to come alongside anyone making their own journey. But she did more than equip people—she was ready to enter the battle with them.

“You knew you had a warrior on your side,” said Dr. Darius Maggi. He is also an original board member of the Texoma Health Foundation, which manages Reba’s Ranch House. “Her attitude was, ‘I’m with you. I’ll hold your hand. We’ll go into battle together,’” he continued. “The Good Lord put her on the earth for that reason. We need people that love people and take care of people like Jesus did. If anyone exemplifies that, Susan does.”

Susan first entered Texoma Health Foundation (THF) almost 15 years ago when she was battling cancer for the first time. Like so many she has helped since, Susan had been sent home with stage IV cancer. A business owner facing the high cost of health insurance, Susan had no options for treatment or surgery available to her. She called her dear friend and THF Foundation Board Member, Judge Horace Groff who connected her to the foundation’s Cancer Fund. The fund was able to provide dollars to open the door to life saving treatment.

So thankful for what the foundation had done, she joined all volunteer activities for the patient assistance fund and Texoma Health Foundation.

“She walked into my office one day and said, ‘I want to give back,’” said Michelle Lemming, THF CEO. “Fifteen years later, she has been a tireless advocate to the community, a fundraiser, and a loving friend to countless residents facing a cancer diagnosis.”

She eventually joined the Reba’s Ranch House staff in Guest Relations before the Room for Hope was founded in March 20, 2012. There, Susan had the opportunity to fulfill her passion for supporting and assisting those who were beginning their battle with cancer. Today the room assists men and women in their fight, both financially and with needed personal items for the battle.

“Most people came in with a relative or friend,” Susan said. “They usually felt bad and thought they looked bad. After trying on wigs and playing for a time, everyone was in a better mood. We prayed and talked and ended up being one big family.” 

Susan in the Room for Hope

It wasn’t only Susan’s dedicated work that made the Room for Hope thrive; it was the heart, positive attitude, and hugs she had for anyone who crossed her path.

Betty, Phil’s wife and a volunteer for the ranch house, said, “Susan’s attitude is an example of how important being positive is to your health.”

Susan, second from left.

Susan’s declining health ushered her into retirement, but not the end of her legacy at Reba’s Ranch House. A new fund is being created in her honor: The Susan Hooper Cancer Care Fund. 

One goal of the fund is to assist people who face the same struggles Susan did, helping those who have no insurance or are underinsured receive the treatment they need.

“The fund in my honor means the world because a fund will continue helping people long after I can, personally,” Susan said. “What a great feeling for anyone!”

Through the fund, Susan will continue as a warrior alongside patients and guests at Reba’s Ranch House.

“When you come into the ranch house, you are uncertain of your life at the moment,” Susan said. “To help someone clear their mind is a tremendous gift. Just talking and praying accomplished this with people.”

Phil added, “My sister still remembers how calming it was to talk to Susan, to understand someone else who had been through the battle, what to expect; and that it can be okay.”

If you would like to contribute to Susan’s fund and be a warrior for men and women fighting cancer, please donate here.

(Click on the dropdown arrow next to the “Area of Interest” title and select “Susan Hooper Cancer Care Fund”)

Christmas floral design by Susan

A decade ago, Reba’s Ranch House was bursting at the seams with housing hundreds of vulnerable guests annually. Each individual needed a safe place to stay while their loved one was hospitalized. Thus began our partnership with international design firm HKS as they designed the new Reba’s Ranch House in 2010, the one we currently use to host 850 guests each year.

Running such an operation of love requires regular board meetings and also offices for the Texoma Health Foundation (THF) which owns and operates Reba’s Ranch House. THF cares for several nonprofits doing good work in our community, and for individuals who find themselves in difficult circumstances at local healthcare facilities in Grayson and Fannin counties in North Texas and Bryan and Marshall counties in Southern Oklahoma. 

When THF needed more space to operate, Reba’s Ranch House once again turned to HKS.

Citizen HKS — A Public Interest Design Initiative 

Reba’s Ranch House and THF partnered with HKS once again, this time through the firm’s public interest design initiative, Citizen HKS Project. This opened the way for a new 1,700 square feet space that not only benefits Reba’s Ranch House but numerous non-profits in our community. The meeting room Citizen HKS designed has become a community space for nonprofits throughout the area.

“We had identified this as an important community need,” says Marilyn Bice, director at Reba’s Ranch House. “And within two and a half months, it was full. We have meetings in the mornings, at noon, at night. And we have all of our THF and Reba’s Ranch House board meetings there, too.”

On the porch

Read the Design Story

What a privilege it has been to work with HKS through the years and on this functional, beautiful new space! Please enjoy a special post about the expansion written by Candace Goodman, a senior designer at HKS Dallas. Discover the lessons she learned and the love she shared during the project: Click here to read the full story.

By Sarah Elisabeth Sawyer

A guest trudged down the hallway at Reba’s Ranch House. She was coming in from the hospital where her mother had just passed. 

Something hung from the doorknob to the room where she was staying, a note with a Bible verse from Psalms. At that moment, the card with the scripture verse was what she needed.

 A few years later, this guest returned to Reba’s Ranch House when her mother-in-law was hospitalized. The guest went to the front desk and found Jeri Carosella, the one who had hung the card on her doorknob years before. She expressed to Jeri what it had meant to her.

“Her sister took her mother’s robe and made her a pillow,” Jeri says. “She keeps that card in the pocket of the pillow. She said she will have it the rest of her life. You never know who you’re touching, even with something as simple as writing out a message.”

Jeri has worked at Reba’s Ranch House since 2013. In those days, her husband — who held degrees as an aircraft engineer, aerospace engineer, and was a Ph.D. Nuclear Fusion Scientist — had a full schedule with volunteering for a senior exercise class. 

“I would tease him by saying, ‘You have all those degrees, and you married a simple high school teacher,’” Jeri recalls with a laugh. “He responded by saying that without teachers, there could be no engineers or scientists.”

Jeri sought the Lord to uncover what she should do for His Kingdom in the next season of her life. She believes He led her to Reba’s Ranch House. 

Serving in Guest Relations, she prays for people, writes poems and scriptures on cards to hang on their doors, and gives them hugs when they need it so desperately.

“Everybody who comes through this door is going through a tribulation in their life,” Jeri says. “If they come through this door, somebody is in the hospital.”

Jeri has faced her own tragedies. Among them, her husband of 31 years passed at the end of 2018. But he loved the work she did at Reba’s Ranch House and wanted her to continue being a compassionate prayer warrior. She is known as, “The Ranch House Angel.”

With Jeri’s shift starting in the mornings, she greets guests as they come and go from the hospital. They sometimes congregate around the front desk, where her arms are always open to offer a hug. She calls it “God’s medicine.”

“When you give somebody a hug, you don’t know what it’s doing for them, what they’re going through, how much they needed that hug,” she says.

Every day, Jeri puts on her most beautiful accessory for work: her smile.

“I believe I am where I’m supposed to be, walking in the plan the Lord has for me,” Jeri adds.

Countless guests, some experiencing the worst circumstances in their life, have been touched by this Ranch House Angel.